We sat on the deck as the sun dipped below the trees and farther still. The air was warm and not heavy. Four green Adirondack chairs were arranged in an oval and the baby, the one who is eager to grab a hand and stretch those little wobbly wings crossed back and forth.
It’s been a day. A two hour attempt to remove tiny splinters from the hand of a six year old boy, who is as still and stubborn as Everest Another day of that whole unsettled game, where the kids ask when we’ll go home and where is our new home. How do we really make them understand time and the process of it all. Their questions turn up the volume on our own, where is our new home and when will we get there. How do we begin all over again? The temporary housing isn’t bad, ever so sweetened by adoring grandparents, but is the loss of home already such a strong feeling at ages four and six and one. The flood of emotions is constant as the sea with high tide and low tide. Help me Jesus, it’s been mostly high tide these days.
I think we always forget this part, because a portion of us is always dangling in this semi-uprooted existence, while softened by the rhythms of our days which play out within the walls filled with our things and ways. However, for our babies not yet plagued with the gift of the restless adventurer, there’s no place for those feelings to go, so we catch them, and keep them afloat the best we can while treading water.
We went to the beach one last time before leaving the East coast and the waves were so beautifully fierce that we had to clutch their wrists with all our might to keep them from folding into the power of the waters that pulled upon the shore. It’s like that, but if we are honest, the waves shake our footing, too.
We forge on with eternal optimism because what else would we do, there is no other way to play the roles we’ve been given, that blessing curse that beckons us onward. Hoping that the emotions of now three young children will go easy on us. Surely, they won’t, but we’ll make it through. We’ll make it through, we always do. Surely, we’ll do it again, right?
All that and it’s only just bedtime. Three kids who woke early and barely napped must be wrangled into bed, all in the same room.
Will you read us a story? He asks, you know I was kind of hoping to skip it. Will you read us a Jesus story? He asks, not well enough versed in the rhetoric to call it a Bible story. I like it better that way, don’t you, because don’t all the stories point to Jesus. Even the story of today with its trials and heavy clouds of growth and faith. Especially those.
Sometimes when I read their children’s bible, the poetry of the words catch me off guard and I almost feel him reaching out to us. Adam and Eve were sent from the garden, that perfect home, propelling all of humanity on a painful journey, catapulting us into an existence of searching for home where our hearts are whole again. Now all our days and labor and yearning and creativity cry out to the only one who holds that which we seek. Sure, they disobeyed God and trusted the snake, but this human story is no tragedy, because all our wanderings are marked with this, I am with you, wherever you go.
I finished reading. The baby was already asleep, how exhausted she must be. I sat on the edge of his bed until his eyes were small slivers.
But, mama, how come we can’t see God? Where is he?
Well, baby, he’s everywhere.
I don’t really know, but I know he’s so big and so great that he’s everywhere.
You mean, he’s by the ocean and the jungle and in America? And outer space? You said he was in the waves, but we can’t see him?
I told them how there are special places where we can see and feel God the most. I told them that there will be a special place where they may not be able to explain it, but will feel God so close that seeing isn’t important. I said that God has a special story for you to live and it’s going to be wonderful and brave and creative. I told them I can’t wait to see what that story is.
What will that story be, mama?
I don’t really know, but you’ll see.
The dark room was silent, two little heads with eyes half open, fully alight with a world of thoughts more radiant than the sun. One little baby in footy pajamas closing out day 364 of her sweet life. I could have kissed their heads and left the room, but I didn’t dare move from the presence that needed no introduction. No one spoke for minutes or was it seconds?
I don’t really know what that story will be, mama, but I think it will be good.
Grace clutches our wrists, as we take those first wobbly steps. Grace holds us in the crashing waves and carries us through the story. I don’t really know what the story will be, but I think it will be good.